Useless baby registry gifts

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  1. Mrs Teacher

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    Im going to be shopping for my neice's baby shower and since I don't have a child of my own... Perhaps we can share some items you got at your registry that turned out to be useless??
     
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    Great topic, Mrs Teacher!

    I haven't had our baby yet, but I've heard that the bouncer seats and swings are hit and miss. We're waiting until the baby is born, and will then test the store models. Apparently some babies love them and others hate them-if yours isn't a fan, it's a big items to have in your living room that you're not using!

    Also, I found this great pacifier in the shape of a raspberry on the end. You're suppose to freeze it, and it's nice for teething-the bumps sooth the gums. The problem? The cute colored ones are two pieces-the raspberry can pop off! The solid color ones aren't as cute, but the piece can't choke the baby. It has me looking at EVERYTHING to make sure that small pieces can't pop off, even on items meant to go in mouths!

    Our registry is currently filled with children's books and wooden toys. Especially wooden toys.
     
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    Short sleeve onesies were a waste for me. My kids were born in late winter and it was cold for the first 3 months of their lives, hot for the next 3-4, then cold. I had packages of short sleeve onesies that I never used because if it was too cool for me to feel comfortable in short sleeves, I wasn't putting my babies in them. I would recommend purchasing onesies by the season. I hate seeing babies in short sleeve onesies with purple little arms.
     
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    My mom has also told us to only get so many newborn sized pieces of clothing. She said that babies grow out of them quickly, if they fit in to them at all. But then I just read on a baby board that someone got all larger sized pieces of clothing at their shower and now they don't have any newborn pieces!
     
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    Everything on our registry was useful to us. We used our swing and bouncer seat a lot with DS. The swing was the only place he would nap occasionally besides on me. I guess one thing we did get that we didn't use a lot was a Bumbo seat. It was helpful for a little bit but DS could sit unassisted by 5 months so after that we didn't need it much and just put him in the high chair.

    I know this isn't what you asked, but here's what we DID use:
    -swing, bouncer seat (could put baby in this in the bathroom while showering), jumperoo, Rock n Play (only place he'd sleep at night besides on me - it's an incline so it helps reflux babies, too), Pack 'n Play (for travel and containment once they become mobile!), activity gym (great for tummy time and play time before they can sit up), SwaddleMe, large receiving blankets for swaddling (the regular receiving blankets are useless for swaddling - but great for other purposes), the old-fashioned cloth diapers for burp rags, Moby Wrap (for the baby that doesn't want to be put down so Mom could have 2 hands-free every now and then!), travel system (carseat/stroller), umbrella stroller, convertible car seat, monitor, Space Saver high chair, grocery cart cover (still use this all the time).

    I wish we'd gotten a video monitor because DS is a terribly light sleeper so going in to check on him would often disturb him but I couldn't go to bed at night without peeking in on him. He also didn't sleep through the night until he was almost 1 so it would have come in handy to be able to see if when he woke and was crying if he really needed me or if he was trying to put himself back to sleep. I'd end up going in and he'd want to nurse if he saw me. I didn't get a lot of use out of my breast pump because I stayed home and DS never really took to bottles/pacifiers but it was still good to have in case I needed to leave him for a little while.

    As far as newborn clothes, it's good to have some, even if you keep tags on them until you know if you need them. DS was just shy of 9 lbs at birth so he was only in NB size for a couple weeks. My friend's little girl was only 5 lbs so she had to ask to borrow NB clothes for awhile because she didn't have any. The side-snap newborn shirts came in handy for me, too.

    Oh, and I never really used my Beco baby carrier with DS. He wasn't a fan of being worn but I'm holding onto it because I think I'll have to wear #2 when he/she comes along more often.

    I didn't put books/toys on my registry because I knew we'd get a lot anyway (and we did)! There is a registry completion discount so it's better to put the big things on there in case you want to buy them at some point and get some $$ off.
     
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    Nothing on my registry turned out to be useless, but we also didn't register for too much. We only registered for what we knew we would need.


    We didn't really use a lot of the baby onesies, but we didn't get a lot of them either.

    Is your niece planning on nursing? If so, I would look into a breastfriend or boppy and some lanolin cream. These were lifesavers that we didn't think about before the baby.

    Another great thing that we didn't think about was a plastic portable diaper changer. It was so nice because when we were out we could use it to change our daughter anywhere.
     
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    My boppy was used a ton! I used it when I breastfed, but my husband used it longer than I did when he fed him bottles. It was also a great cushion when he was just learning to sit.
     
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    I didn't use the Boppy much for breastfeeding because I felt it was cumbersome but it is definitely multi-purpose! I used it a lot for tummy time and when he was learning to sit.

    I was at a baby shower a few weeks ago and one childless guest picked up the Boppy and asked, "Is this what you sit on after you give birth?" so I suppose it could be used for that purpose, too! :lol:
     
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    I only liked jammies that zipped, not snapped. Much faster.
     
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    And I absolutely detested zippers.

    The definition of "useless" is as varied as mothers are. Actually, even more so, because if you have more than one kid, each kid will be different, and the thing that one kid absolutely adores will be abhorred by the next one. My advise is to not get too many of any single type of garment, and hold off on the big stuff until you have a chance to figure out what your mothering style is going to be, and what your child actually likes.
     
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    I was at a baby shower the other day and one of the guests complained that at her own shower nobody got anything for her. It was all for the baby. She was of the opinion that mothers always got shafted. I also had a boss a few years ago who made a similar comment when a cowoker of ours was thrown a shower at work.

    Personally, I think that is a short-sighted view. The idea of a wedding or baby shower is to shower the mom with things she will need - it's not her birthday. The tradition is a throwback to the old days when you needed more established friends and family members to help you out. Nowadays many people wait until they're a little older and have some money in the bank before they have these expensive life-changing events.

    Anyway, sorry for the vent. I just wanted to point out that while you asked about what would be wasteful items, there are people with the point of view that the mother should be spoiled at her party.

    In my own experience, if there are a lot of things on a registry and the seemingly important things are already chosen by other guests, I'll purchase clothing for 6 or 12 month olds. Lots of people get newborn stuff and don't have much for later on.
     
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    Wow! What a thought-it's a BABY shower, silly! Pretty much anything I purchase right now is for the baby, or is a piece of clothing that will fit over the baby bump. That's just as fun as buying for me.

    Also, dh and I were hesitant to even make a registry, as we feel really bad expecting people to purchase items for us. We're the ones who decided to have a baby, not my friends. And yet they are getting us things like a baby bath and nail clippers? It's so very sweet when people offer, or WANT to get you items, but I still feel guilty. We're trying to grab as many of the larger items off Craigslist as we can so our friends and family don't feel they need to get the items. And we totally don't mind used items, but I'm sure people feel they need to get your baby shower items new, which just adds to the cost.
     
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    I will soon be a great-grandmother (in case anyone forgot). This new baby and all my grandchildren have been clothed from Goodwill. In fact, I gave my best friend 8 boxes of baby stuff from Goodwill. She, too, appreciates used. I was able to give her enough stuff that she had to buy little new.

    If I buy something new, it is usually useful. My gift of choice is a mattress pad. So many babies sweat when they just have a sheet covering the plastic on the mattress.
     
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    Actually, if it is someone she is close to, my mom always buys two nightgowns for the new mom - one comfy one (or robe) that she can sit around the house in and be comfortable when she comes home from the hospital - usually a nursing gown, and then another cuter nightie, as my mom says, to help her feel pretty and sexy again. I actually do think it is nice to give the new mom a gift.
     
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    Just as each baby is different, so is each mom. So anything but a gift card is likely to be subject to taste. Don't sweat it, and just include a gift receipt, then don't worry about whether or not your gift is one of those she won't use.

    I'm not a believer in registries (and besides, our firstborn arrived at age 7 months.) So, how about instead of useless, we talk about some very useful gifts?

    One that was incredibly thoughtful was a book on baby's symptoms. I forget which one it was, but it was my go-to resource when something new came up. So when we had our first episode of croup, I followed my instincts while Pete checked the book. That's where I checked the first time we met a fever that might or might not have been scary-high. Even though I had always been around kids, it was a wonderful resource when I wasn't sure whether or not we needed to call the pediatrician. You could combine it with some board books (Good Night Moon, and others) or with some other medical stuff- a thermometer, alcohol, and so on.)

    Here's a homemade gift if you're crafty: when my kids were little, each day I wrote down a sentence or two about something that had happened that day. I posted a sheet on the fridge, and found time each day to jot something down for each of the kids. I put them into binders, and now have this remarkable record of their early years.

    You could always think well ahead and buy a snow suit for NEXT winter. Maybe combine it with a sled? Something like this?
    http://www.amazon.com/Paricon-936-I...DC0M/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1329914535&sr=8-3

    Or offer a night's free babysitting, along with a restaurant gift card.

    One of my favorite gifts for baby #2 or 3 (I forget which one) was a friend who called the day we got home from the hospital and left a message on the machine while Peter was picking me up. She told me she had dinner taken care of, and would be by at 5:30 with it. At 5:30 on the nose, she arrived with a pizza, 2 bottles of soda, paper plates, and Carvel for all of us. She didn't ask to see the baby, didn't even come into the house, but dinner was taken care of.
     
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    Jem, just a warning about used items. Most are wonderful; most moms I know are part of a whole network of moms who pass down used items to the next one who can use it.

    BUT-- be careful about a few things:
    a. Car seats. Unless you KNOW, because it was used by a personal friend of yours, that the car seat has never been in an accident of any sort, pass it up. One "small" accident can weaken the frame and endanger your baby.

    b. Be careful about acccepting a used crib unless you're sure it meets current safety standards. These things change fairly frequently. Also, of course, make sure the mattress is a good fit; a little too much room around the outside is enough to do immeasurable harm to an infant.

    c. Check the recall list: http://www.cpsc.gov/cpscpub/prerel/category/child.html
     
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    Also, car seats have an expiration date.
     
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    Diaper Genie...USELESS!!!!! I got one that my cousin had...so I didn't have to pay for it. Used it like 4 times!!!!

    We signed up for stuff we would use as babe got older, sippy cups, little bowls, we signed up for gift cards as well.
     
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    Each baby is different. I had one who lived in her swing, and one who hated it. I had one who had to be worn on me ALL of the time, and one who could only sleep in a prone position. It's hard to predict...

    I can say that one thing I rarely used were onsies or undershirts of any sort. I had two summer babies (and one winter one) and I felt that the clothing was sufficient to keep them warm, plus a blanket. But other moms swear by them. And, of course, I had bumper pads and one of those sleep positioners...but nowadays, they are frowned upon because they are SIDS hazards, so they are pretty useless. Use the registry to determine what you think that mom will think.

    I think one of the most useful items was the playmat I got where toys dangle over the babies. All of mine loved theirs and I got some good hands-free time that way.
     
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    I think a gift for the mom is a nice idea, but to complain that people only brought you gifts for the baby is sort of....rude?

    I LOVE the snowsuit and sled idea! How sweet!

    I have to disagree, because I adored my diaper genie and had three - one in the baby's room, and one in each bathroom. (all were hand-me-downs). And all have been handed down yet again to the local senior center, which gives them to seniors in need. I hadn't even thought about that...but sometimes seniors that are still active and healthy have incontinence issues that need to be addressed.

    I went to a shower last weekend for a second baby. When I was pregnant, second babies (especially like this one, same sex, two years later, same season of birth) didn't get showers. And this mom openly said she didn't need anything...she'd saved it all. So...I bought a huge pack of diapers, size 1-2 mixed, at Sams' Club. Something that will definitely be used, lol. And I also got two cute pairs of footed jammies - one for the big sister and a matching pair for baby.
     

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