Personal necessity and what you think I should do...

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  1. serawyn

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    I am getting married next April and unfortunately, it has to be the weekend after my spring break because we cannot get married during easter weekend.

    My fiance and I LOATH the summer in California because it is too hot and we do not want to get married in the summer. Winter and fall are out of the picture for various family reasons so Spring is the only time. Our date is next April and I am thinking of taking 10 personal days off from work. This would be two weeks after Spring Break. I would have a retired teacher who's substituted for me in the classroom and help him with all the lesson plans. Keep in mind this is almost the end of the year so the kids will be much more independent. Do you think it's ok??? I feel so guilty thinking about doing this, but I have NEVER taken any sick days or personal days. I've never had a vacation because I'm always working during the summer (I cannot afford to take vacations).

    I guess I need some honest opinions from other teachers. People I've spoken with about this told me I'm being selfish because I already have the summer vacation, which if you're in teaching know it's not true!
     
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  3. Caesar753

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    Why do you need to take off 10 days?
     
  4. TeacherNY

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    My wedding was after spring break too but I only took 1 week off. I did not feel guilty at all!
     
  5. Lesley

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    I know teachers who have been married in the spring, one took a week off but tied to to a long weekend and another took a Friday and Monday off, then had her honeymoon when school was out. Do you get 10 personal days ( we get 3 a year and then any left over go to our sick leave)? Where are you going? If it were me, I would feel guilty for not being at school and have my honeymoon when school is not in session, but that is me.
     
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    I think your kiddos would probably be okay, but I can totally understand the guilt feeling. Usually teachers don't take 2 weeks so people sort of gasp when one does.

    I guess you have to also consider what your class is like? How needy will they be? How uptight do the parents get and all that jazz. Plus you need to consider if anything else might happen up until that point where you need to be out for a while.

    As someone who has been married a long time, I can tell you that it is not the end of the world to not honeymoon immediately after your wedding. It seems like it is but trust me, in years to come, when it comes up in conversation, no one comes right out and asks you when you went, they ask where you went.

    If it was me, I would take a few days after the wedding and then honeymoon in the summer. That way there wouldn't be 23 days without your kiddos.
     
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    I took a week off after my wedding which was after a two week Christmas break (three weeks total, but only one without my kids). My wedding was the last weekend of break so I had one week to settle in. We went out of town immediately after wedding and came home Monday so my DH could go back to work.

    I don't know that I would take two weeks. One week was great and now we are taking another week this summer and going on a cruise! It's like two honeymoons.
     
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    What about taking a slightly longer weekend small honeymoon and then saving the larger one for later?

    My husband and I were married a year and a half ago. We're taking our honeymoon this summer (to Ireland)!
     
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    I'm probably going to get flamed for this but...it is YOUR life! If you have 2 weeks to take and want to take it off, do it! You have those days for a reason! You'll be quite refreshed from being off! Some people flamed me for taking an extended infant bonding leave because the sub my principal got for me was awful and my kids ran wild. BUT, it is MY baby and I wanted to stay home with him...family comes first! I'm not saying to abandon your job, but they'll manage. We are silly to think if we up and died tomorrow that they wouldn't find a replacement for us...you aren't the only one who can teach your children. It'll be fine! Like you said, it's April and you won't be doing this (taking off 2 weeks) every year! I rarely miss 5 days a year! But, family first then job! Do what's best for you!

    FYI since I've been off I'm now anxiously awaiting fall to start back...I feel so refreshed and can't wait to get back in the classroom! I think you'll feel the same way!:)
     
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    I agree with others that have said to take a few days off during the school year and take your big honeymoon during the summer. My DH and I have been married for almost 6 years, and have never been on a honeymoon. But ultimately its your decision.

    Also, with long absences like this, especially after a break, you have to get it approved by the principal/the board so make sure you request early.
     
  11. educator

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    Do what YOU want to do.

    You have one life, and the contract didn't exchange your life, your ability to make a decision and your individuality for a classroom and a paycheck.

    If the sub is good, conducts your classes as you instruct and you are able to come back into the classroom with everything on track, your kids are covered and you have the wedding/honeymoon that YOU want.

    Hopefully, you're only going to get married once, so this issue will be a moot point after April.

    Best wishes and much happiness.
     
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    If you have the days available and want to take two weeks, then take two weeks! I went years without taking any personal days and took minimal sick days. This year I took more personal days than I ever have. I hate planning for a sub, and I always dread being away, but the children are resilient and everyone survives and I appreciate the break.

    Your wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime thing. Arrange your honeymoon however you want to and have fun!
     
  13. serawyn

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    I guess I didn't make it clear in the original post, but the reason why it would be immediately after the wedding is because I also work during the summer. I cannot afford not to work so summers are jammed pack with two jobs, one as an IT tech and one as a babysitter. I have to work all summer because my jobs are very demanding and I cannot take time off.

    Thanks everyone for your opinion! I will mull over what you've said and take my honeymoon. I am for sure going to take some days off, just not sure how long yet.
     
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    That makes sense. Do what's best for you!

    CONGRATULATIONS, by the way! :wub:
     
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    The additional information helped. take some time and enjoy!
     
  16. love2teachk

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    Take as many days as you need off! I know as teachers it is hard to imagine "our kids" without us, but they will survive, even if you aren't there! You only get married once, and will have to live with your hubby forever-you only have to see these kids 180 days. If it is important to both of you-take the time!!!!
     
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    Good luck with your decision. I felt the same way as you did with not wanting my wedding anywhere near the summer. TOO HOT! And I did NOT want my honeymoon to be ruined by the heat. We had a nice cool week on our honeymoon in April. It rained a bit but at least it wasn't 95 degrees or higher.
     
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    Absolutely. Take all the time you want! The kids will survive and will be enriched by another person getting to know them (the sub) while you are gone. Priorities come first and getting married definitely trumps you teaching them any possible subject. Best wishes!
     
  19. Master Pre-K

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    TAKE OFF AND ENJOY YOURSELF!

    No guilt trips. You deserve some time for this special event!! And.....

    Subs need to work!!


    :D
     
  20. kimrandy1

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    Check with your district and see what the rules are before you make any plans. Here, we can only take 3 sick days before needing a dr. note, and you cannot take more than 2 personal days in a row...and none in any conjunction with sick days. A guidance counselor recently was fired for taking 5 consecutive days for a marriage/honeymoon, even though she had the days to take...because it was against her contract.

    I don't really have any opinion one way or the other of what you "should do." Just make sure you don't create any un-needed headaches for yourself!
    Kim
     
  21. princessa48

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    I would definitely get it approved in writing from your administrators so it doesn't make waves. If they are supportive then I say go for it. Good luck, and have a blast!
     

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