This post made me sad. I don't think I'd want to have much of a relationship with her after that. My word! I would not say anything except that your money is tied up with medical bills. I would definitely tell my husband. Depending on what type of relationship I had with my father, I'd tell him too. Who knows, she might be lying about what she spent her money on recently, might have a gambling problem, who knows. Very ODD. Go home and do what you can for yourself.