letter sent to our families

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  1. SadieD

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    Hi. I am currently a preschool teacher in a private school. We have 2 teachers in the 3 year old program. This summer a letter was written by our director instructing parents to work with their 3 year olds to “prepare them for entering the 3 year old classroom.” She requested that they work on sitting still for extended periods of time including dinner so that they will be ready to sit for the entire circle time, throwing away garbage, and to not speak in a baby voice. I do not hold these expectations for my classroom because I focus on the individual development of the child and do not believe a 3 year should sit still. I try to voice my concerns, worrying how a letter like this would be received given that parents get so many messages about kindergarten readiness. I can see this causing a lot of anxiety and concern. I was outvoted and the letter was sent today. Am I overreacting? Is this common to send a letter like this? How would you handle parents who approach you about this letter? I just think kids should be kids and my goal is for them to be engaged and curious learners. Any insight is much appreciated.
     
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    I currently have a 4 year old. This letter would not bother me at all. My child helps me with chores, picks up his messes, and is required to be respectful.
    As long as circle time is not incredibly long where they start to get fidgety, these procedures are reasonable.

    I would get anxiety my kid being in your classroom, where your mentality is "kids will be kids". I need my child in a structured classroom where there is order and kids are not roaming around whenever to be "curious".
     
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    I can see your concern about circle time and sitting still for a period of time. I am not sure circle time is best for 3 year olds. If it is for a very short period of time and the students are highly engaged it might work. My experience with highly active boys at this age is that it might be quite a challenge. The letter wouldn't be my favorite, but I don't think it is over the top.

    I'd probably instead add items in the letter such as the huge importance of reading to their child. If they don't have time, then they can go to robertmunsch.com and listen to one of the best story tellers in the world read a story to their child. Not as good as a parent, but better than nothing. This will help children to sit still, listen, and be more prepared for preschool.
     
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    This probably won't be the last time you disagree with others about educational approaches.

    If approached, I would just say that it is the goal but not all kids will reach that goal. Any progress toward those goals will be helpful to the child in the long run. Let the parents know to keep the training fun for the child as they try to move the child forward in their progress. Just knowing that you are aware that not all children will reach the goal at the same time should alleviate any anxiety. The them know that practicing these skills at home will give them a boost toward learning these skills as they move through the 3 year old program.

    Straddle that fence. Support administration while also acknowledging that children develop at different rates.
     
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    The fact that you were outvoted by your colleagues in this regard suggests a need for some introspection. Why do you think the majority of teachers voted the way they did? Are you experiencing challenges similar to those of your colleagues that would explain the focus of the letter? What specific expectations do you have for your students that have been communicated to their parents? Keep in mind that there is a big difference between promoting the development of a child's social development and his/her academic skills. Sometimes these bumps in the road just require a bit of tweaking of one's perspective to move forward.
     
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    I see your point as I'm not in favor of unreasonable expectations for that age group, but at the same time, if you're putting your kid into something as structured as preschool (and all preschools have some level of structure), it is best to practice for that. My kids attend a pretty casual home daycare without a preschool focus, but at church in the nursery and kids' class they do learn about sitting still for greater or lesser periods of time, taking turns, etc. Even the nursery that is like 99% kids playing with toys has a very short lesson where the kids sit.

    If your preschool is having crazy long times of stillness, you might have greater cause for concern, but that is something you would see.

    Either way, the kids are likely being held to some kind of structure and I don't think it's wrong for the parents to know about it and help prepare for it.
     
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    Sure, a few parents might be all "gah, not another reminder about how if our kid doesn't sit still in circle time he'll never go to college!" but I like to think the majority of parents would take those reminders in stride. Of course I don't see how the letter is written, but an overview of the skills the preschool will be working on and how parents can help doesn't strike me as overzealous.
     

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