I’m one of those parents...

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  1. minnie

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    Hello everyone. I never comment on here but just though I’d add my two cents as a parent. I’ve been reading some comments on here about parents hating when school is out. They just want their kids out of the house and out of their hair. These parents can’t wait for school to start. I hate to say that sometimes I am one of these parents. I look forward to the breaks because it’s nice to be off of work but at the same time I look forward to school starting back again because my kids need the structure that school provides. I have a very active and rambunctious 7 year old and 8 year old. They are so close in age that they argue. A lot. My son (who I love with all of my heart) is loud all the time and constantly wanting to be on the move. Unfortunately we live where they can’t just run around outside all the time. There is a lot of traffic where we live. I give my kids tons of opportunities to play outside at other places, I play games with them, they draw and color, ride bikes...However, they are driving me nuts! And yes, I can’t wait for them to go back to school. Not because I want them to be someone else’s problem (my kids are pretty well behaved at schoo and do well academically), but because they need to be back to a normal, structured day. My kids would never admit it, but they like the structure of a school day. I enjoy my kids and I love the weekends with them, but during a long break, they can get on my nerves.

    Anyway, I just wanted to offer a parents perspective (I’m also a teacher).

    If you’re a parent, do you look forward to your kids going back to school? Gosh, I hope there are some parents out there that feel the same way I feel or else I’m gonna feel like the crappiest parent ever. Lol.
     
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    So help me understand a bit more. I was a SAHM for years and I hated it when school started back. I wanted my children around me and I loved the flexibility that summer and breaks held for us. We could do whatever we wanted, any time we wanted. But I also would rein them in and make the day more structured if I didn't feel they were getting anything from their free time.

    For those parents that say their kids need the structure of a school day, why can't you provide that structure at home? Especially since you're a teacher and know how days work at schools.
     
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    Not going to lie. I'm so ready for school to be back in. I have twin boys and they're driving me up a wall. Someone else can deal with them Monday and I can't wait.
     
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    Don’t get me wrong. I don’t hate the breaks. I enjoy having nowhere to go and relaxing and going out and doing things. But towards the end, I’m ready for school to start. School for us starts on Monday and I’m ready. My kids are ready.

    I provide some structure...but it’s not school. I’m not gonna schedule out their whole day like school. They’re at home and it is less structured than school. So, my kids tend to antsy towards the end.
     
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    Glad I’m not alone. Lol.
     
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    Oh you're not. We flew to Germany with them over the holiday. In so ready for them to be back in school. Friends their own age.
     
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    This was me also. When I was home with my kids, all of us thrived on the summers and school breaks. We made a summer list of all the things we wanted to do and had fun checking them off. However, both of my kids were good at filling the time. Not everyone is in the same boat.
     
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    My sister and I had a FaceTime conversation today. She is working from home this week since my nephews are on break. We were cracking up because she said, “When does school start????” in an exhausted and exacerbated voice!

    School breaks can be hard; especially when an average school day is so incredibly busy for their family (after school sports practices along with other activitities they’re involved in). Typically, once they get home from school, they’re completely wiped out. They get homework done, eat dinner, shower, and go to bed. Rinse and repeat. Right now, there’s a break from everything!
     
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    I think there's a difference between those parents who honestly like being around their kids but long breaks are difficult (if they are bored, not much to do, sibling rivalry, etc.) and those who just can't stand being around their kids and want the school to deal with them. Most people who are parents on here probably fall into the first category.
     
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    I also can't wait for school to start. I love my son, but we are too much alike, and when we are home together we get on each other's nerves. I enjoy summer breaks because we can do things that we want, but a lot of those things we can't do in the winter, and frankly, I enjoy my "me" time. I love to spend time alone, which is why, even in the summer, when i am home, I send my son to summer day camp at the Y. He wants to go, so it's not like I force him, but it provides him structure and an outlet, and I get to be by myself to do whatever I wish. Both of us are currently sick with the flu, we were supposed to go back Wednesday, but here we are. I'm going stir crazy and so is he--can't wait until we both feel better.
     
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    Y'know, every time I see my stay-at-home friends and family humorously complaining on social media about school breaks, the last thing I think is "they hate their children." I think they've gotten into a system and routine and while breaks can be fun, they are still a disruption in the system where no routine exists. They don't hate their kids, they just get exasperated.

    On a side note, I've been in recent times thinking about career changes. Then I realized... I do love summer break and being with my kids!
     
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    This is sooo true! Especially with my son! He thrives in sports but now nothing is going on. He’s the kind of kid where his whole body has to be moving (climbing, riding bike, swimming) when he plays. It’s so cold outside right now so he’s bouncing off the walls.
     
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    I couldn’t have explained it better myself! Sibling rivalry is in full force right now.
     
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    A lot of kids behave better in school than at home because their siblings aren't in their classes LOL
     
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    I have no children of my own but I WAS the child of two teachers. We all had breaks at the same time, so child care was never an issue. How on earth do duel-income (meaning both work 9-5) households handle when Johnny and Janie are home without them?
     
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    My husband works third shift and if there's ever an issue where I have to work but the boys are staying home, if it's on a Mon/Tues, my husband is there and awake. The rest of the week either his mom or one of our brothers will come pick them up for day or stay at the house with them.
     
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    Depending upon the ages of Johnny and Janie, they do the responsible thing that parents are required to do and hire someone to care for their kids.

    I'm always confused when this question comes up. We don't ask it of any other part of parenting. We don't ask how parents manage to feed their kids on the weekends or in the evening. We don't ask how parents manage to have books outside of the classroom. How kids manage to get exercise or play outside of school hours.

    If you choose to have/raise children, you accept the responsibility of caring for them 24/7. Some of that time you get lucky and the taxpayers will fund your childcare. Most of the time they do not.
     
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