Foreign exchange students

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  1. RussianBlueMommy

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    Hi everyone

    I work my second job with an exchange organization, finding volunteer host families for foreign exchange students and supervising said placements.

    This is the height of our placement season which runs October 1 through July 31. My problem is, I am having an immensely difficult time finding volunteer host families!

    So I have a question in general (not trying to recruit anyone here, as I only work within a 120 mile radius of where I live). However, I am trying to gain some insight as to what types of objections people may have about hosting.

    So, what are some "objections" you might have to hosting a foreign exchange student?
     
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  3. MissCeliaB

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    I don't have a spare bedroom, and I only have one bathroom, so I don't really have room for an extra person in my house. i also don't have kids, so I feel like the student would miss out on the "family" aspect. Otherwise, I would love to host an exchange student, and love having them in my classes at school.
     
  4. MrsC

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    We had a bad experience and almost had to have an exchange student removed from our home (he was getting up in the middle of the night and accessing some inappropriate content on our family computer). That put a sour taste in my mouth for several years.

    A couple of years ago, I thought that I might be interested in giving it another try, but we have a rescue dog who can be unpredictable, so have to put it on the back burner for now.
     
  5. Ms. I

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    I'd personally probably never do it, but if I did & still lived alone, didn't have a fiance' (& I don't have kids), I'd want a female student & I'd drive us around to many, many places & show her things & we could probably have a really fun time! Not having kids wouldn't necessarily be a negative thing to me & actually be nice for a change because I wouldn't have to keep up w/ them. Although the student won't see the "family" aspect, I can bring her to places that show family events, but she can get another perspective of a single female living her life in the USA.
     
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    I don't have kids of my own, and I am nervous about the idea of suddenly having a teenager, lol! I have thought about it as a possibility in the future, perhaps when my nephew is that age.
     
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    We had a very bad experience. The girl was very "wild" and broke most rules(set by the sponsoring club) before the 2nd weekend. We went to great expense-had to drive 4 1/2 hours to get her at the airport, redid the bedroom-bedding, etc.(our choice), welcome gifts for school. She was very unappreciative(not that she had to be overly grateful,thank you may have been nice.) We had to have her go on to her next "home" early , after about a month, we couldn't deal with her not following rules and her moodiness for another 2 months.(our daughter was in the same grade at the HS and it was very awkward.) Her next family(friends of ours) had a much younger child and tried to set more boundaries, but we know she continued her antics for her entire stay. The person who had begged us to sponsor was not much help, tried to avoid the issues. It seems the exchange student's father was very involved in his country and they didn't want to admit there was a problem.(we found this out later from a friend) I do believe most exchange students are awesome, but we wouldn't do it again.
     
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    I would love to do it someday but would definitely want to make sure there are clear rules and consequences too. We likely won't be able to though as the student probably wouldn't be able to have their own room.
     
  9. Aces

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    I have a German exchange student in one of my classes! He's a really good student albeit he tends to talk a bit. He was quite surprised when I was able to have a full conversation in German with him!

    As far as actually hosting, I think my biggest objection would be I don't like being responsible for other people's kids. My own kids give me enough anxiety.
     
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    I simply am not willing to give up my family’s privacy.
     
  11. RussianBlueMommy

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    They can share a room with a sibling of the same gender :)
     
  12. Ima Teacher

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    I work with teenagers all day. I don’t want one in my house. :p

    DH has put in his child-rearing time, so he’s okay with an empty nest. We do like our ability to do as we please.
     
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    We had an exchange student for 3 weeks when I was in high school. We happened to get lucky with ours, because she had an awesome personality. She even came back the next summer.

    Really, it's a crapshoot on the personality of the person. You have no idea who this person is. We only had ours for 3 weeks, but I can't even imagine having one for a whole school year. You are basically inviting a stranger to live in your home for an entire year. Terrifying!
     
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    I think the reason I would be hesitant is that I have heard such a mixed bag from other who have hosted. A co-worker who has hosted several students has had great and no-so-great experiences. The last girl she had was wonderful. The boy that she hosted earlier wasn't bad either except that he expected to be going into town every night even though they lived in the country. A neighbor of mine had a student who wanted to break rules with regard to alcohol. Another friend found that the exchange student she hosted expected that Americans went out to eat, shopping, etc. almost every night. The last straw for her was when she caught the student being mean to their pets.
     
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    I'd be terrified of something bad happening on my watch. The exchange students at my high school when I was in high school were wild, wild, wild. I'm not saying all would be that way, but after seeing what I saw, I don't think that I want that responsibility.
     
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    No way!

    My nephews often stay with me for the summer when they visit CA, but that’s family. Yes, they run amok and always want to be entertained, but again—they’re my flesh and blood. I can’t imagine inviting someone to live in my home who isn’t kin or a very close friend.
     
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    And something else - what percentage of families do you think are stable, comfortable, and relatively stress-free? I think that many families have internal problems that would preclude them from volunteering in the program.
     
  18. nklauste

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    We had an exchange student in our marching band when I was in high school and she was a nightmare. Every time we would stop and get off the bus we would end up waiting for her. She got lost in Times Square in NYC because she didn't follow directions and stay in the allowed area and with another person. It was one thing after another with her.
     
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    Dec 5, 2018 at 10:02 PM

    We did not have a big enough house when there were school age kids around. Our houses now are big enough, but without other kids, I would feel awkward.
     
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    Is the host family protected from any liability? Do the students sign waivers?
     

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