Hi Everyone, Long story short, I finished my 10 month contract this past June and I taught 7th graders in a Title I, low-income school. To my chagrin, I did a google search and I found out that my former middle school was ranked in the bottom 5% of public schools in Texas (Now, I'm sure that the school admin doesn't mention THAT to prospective students and their parents!). To illustrate what type of school I taught at, consider that one of the APs bragged that he was going to retire in three years, the principal told the staff that she was "counting down the years until she could get a pension", and two of the other esteemed APs left after the school year ended without telling a soul (see ya later, suckers!). In addition, countless teachers have left and one of my co-teachers told me that he'd "rather take a long walk off a short plank than return to that school". Okay, so everyone gets the idea that the school was rough to teach at (but I believe that the kids themselves were good deep-down). I had a rough first year teaching, which I know is often par for the course in education. However, it wasn't rough for me due to a lack of trying and I think what broke the 7th grade history teacher's back (i.e. me) was the piss-poor support I got from the "master teacher" (makes air quotation marks) and other teachers and admin who had promised that they would be there to train and assist me throughout the year (canned laughter plays in the background); Which resulted in a gradual eroding of my morale. I struggled since I'm naturally NOT a "Don't smile until Christmas" type of teacher and I'm not a teacher who likes to verbally tear students from limb-to-limb if they act up (although countless students gave me 'pointers', saying that I should strive to be the alpha-male and treat the miscreant students like they are privates in boot camp, or to simply just scream and yell a lot more in class). Needless to say, between the lack of support from the parents, minimal admin support (they'd usually just yell at the students and give them after school detention, then send them back to class after threatening to send them to the alternative school for the 6,000th time), and the constant not giving a (bleep) about having a quiet classroom on a majority of the students' end, I got burned out and tried to instead focus on the students doing "group work", since my style of talking and lecturing to them wasn't working... However, the story gets better...As a result of my new and improved mellowed-out approach to teaching, I saw that my popularity among the students skyrocketed, and I felt like the high school quarterback, so to speak; I would get a lot of the jock students saying what's up to me and countless girls saying hi to me that I never met before (which would have been a lot better had I been a university professor and not a middle school teacher ;-) ). But, as a result of my "Uncle Teacher/Older Brother" persona, my classroom management suffered, since the students sensed that I wasn't a pitbull and they sensed that I was a "cool teacher" and therefore I wouldn't dole out punishment consistently (which I admit is my fault) and therefore I wasn't very intimidating to them. Truth be told, I felt the figurative contract renewal death knell was about to unfold when after school one day, I heard a couple of unknown students walk by my classroom and look at my nameplate on the door and say "Oh yeah, that's Mr. So-and-So...he's really cool and friendly!" I realize that being called that behind your back is usually always a compliment, but not when teaching 7th graders, I surmise. After that, it spread around school that I was mellow and friendly, and the rest, they say, is history (pun intended, since I taught history?). Thus, the point of this post is to ask other teachers if there is hope for those who feel as if they just don't have the 'strict classroom management' persona in them? Also, has anyone ever felt this way after their first year and been on the verge of saying (bleep) it all and wanted to tell the school district where they could shove their collective textbooks? I am an energetic and a fun teacher who can usually connect well with students, but I think that maybe I just chose the wrong school and the wrong grade and it has left a sour taste in my teaching mouth. I took a career test and it said that I might make a good high school history teacher, but I'm unsure if you need to have strict classroom management at the high school level to truly succeed...? In 7th grade, you definitely do, or at least you did at the school I was at. At this point, I feel demoralized and am somewhat fearing teaching again. My wife keeps trying to encourage me by saying that I taught in a sh*t school and "no one liked it there" and to "not give up so easily". I know she has a point, but after teaching 7th graders, I feel like I've been knocked to the mat. On one hand, I don't want to throw the teacher out with the bathwater, but I also don't want to set myself up for failure (assuming I get a gig soon). I suppose what I'm saying in all of this is are there grades in which you don't need to be a stone-faced bulldog and where you can actually....(hold collective breaths)...smile and be jovial with the kids? I realize you need rules and procedures in any classroom, but I truly despise feeling like I am a prison guard or a rabid dog when I'm in the classroom. Is there any hope of being able to keep the kids quiet and teach without always having to threaten disciplinary action? Thanks again!